Tuesday, July 31, 2007


When you take control of your life you need a plan. One without a plan goes in all kinds of directions. You might follow someone else’s plan for you or their plan for their life. You might follow the plan that is “THE IN” for-now-plan which will change with every wind that comes along. A person in an unhealthy relationship called Co-Dependency will have the tendency to be this way; they can’t make a decision without the permission or idea of the one they are connected to, or following so closely behind.

Having control over your life brings a healthy mindset of Independence. This can bring on a feeling that is sometimes scary and maybe out of your “Comfort Zone.” Then there is “Perfectionism,” the “Wanting to do it just right,” that kicks in and that’s another article in the making! So relax, get your cup of coffee and read the following and make your plan. Remember…. YOUR LIFE BELONGS TO YOU and You can create it as the “Master Creator” of You had planned all along. He has the plan, and as you take the first step, you get into it and it will be a Life of Adventure, I promise… “Thou wilt show me the path of life: in thy presence is fullness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.” Ps. 16:11

  • Step one - get some idea of what You Really Want from Life, even if it is very basic at first.
  • Step two - begin an attack by setting and beginning to work on some basic goals.
  • Step three - make a plan for continuing the growth of these goals and some instrument to measure their success, failure or even partial success, which is STILL PROGRESS, in most cases.
  • Step four - Gather the best information you can to set wise and achievable goals. Start with - Proverbs 24: 3 & 4; etc.
  • Step five - Plan "check up" and "goal setting times."
  • Step six - Begin to enjoy your Freedom and the Developing of You ….THE REAL YOU!!!

Sunday, July 29, 2007


This is a NEW BEGINNING for me to have a place to share and vent. I find it easy to talk and write. In fact it has become enjoyable. What you can expect is maybe some articles placed here to be read at your leisure. When I write I try to describe the place so you feel as though you are there so you might be traveling to places you have never been. I want to encourage you so you will see some "Self-Helps" from time to time. All of us need some attention to make ourselves better...so come and visit Mary's Place. It will be a comfortable place. So come and sit a while with a cup of fresh brewed coffee, the flavor of your choice....can't you smell the aroma now?! Or maybe you would like a cup of spiced tea. Now let's go... sit back and read. It's like reading a good book when you put it down you can't wait to get back to it.....
Looking forward to seeing you!

Saturday, July 14, 2007


WHAT IS LIFE?..and Do I Matter?

Life, what is it? Life is created by God. It was given to us by Him. You only have one. It is VALUABLE and becomes serious what one does with it. God says, "life is like a vapor it appeareth for a little while and then vanisheth away." It is short.

Life, You can either be selfish and keep it for yourself or give it away, but sometimes there is not enough left for you. If you are not careful people will take advantage and take it from you for their selfish reasons. Then, when you need some you are left with none and all worn out.

How do you find what is yours? A part belongs to you, where is it? You feel as though everyone is having their part and it is going fast. Where is yours? Is it there? Are you strong enough to say, "This is mine!".

You might ask "Where are you God while all this is going on? Have you closed Your eyes like You don't care?" You might even dare to say, "You sure are quite, or are You? Are You the One who is causing me to come into this awareness?" It could be cause You know all things and say they are for my good."

Then, how do you stand up and say, "This is mine"?, you might ask. Are you bold enough? Do you feel worthy of any of this life? Who will do it for you if you don't? Can't you receive it? "Fear" comes over you when you see the vast space before you. "Hope" fills your heart when you know there is life ahead, although we are not promised a tomorrow. Is it "Faith" that is absent in us? "Faith" is belief. Believe in what or is it Who? We have faith in God, who we can not see, but is it not having faith in ourselves who we can see?

Where inside of you does the answer come? Why wait for that, like some. All around look and see....Life rings out clear for you. Take it, take it, while its here. The time is now, step out bravely and have you some. You realize now, what the real truth is. The truth is if you don't have your life.... there want be any for you to give! You do matter enough for God to one day say "I want YOU so He took the time to make a creation..YOU... and there is nothing or nobody else anywhere like you. You DO MATTER!

Sunday, July 8, 2007


Have you ever had a day where everything went wrong? 
Is your house in shambles? 
Does it seem like your "to do list" just goes on and on with no end? 
Are you frustrated with it all and feel like your life is taking up someone's space and the air you breathe belongs to "someone else"? 
And to top it all...the chairman of a committee called asking if you could take a project at church? 
You are screaming inside saying, "will somebody stop this roller coaster I want to get off"!
Where has the BALANCE gone in your life? Or has it ever been? 
God wants you to have a Rich Balanced Life that will cause you to be free to be you. The you He created, like no one else on this earth. 
The good news is God has provided for you a Successful Abundant Life. John 10:10 says, “I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." God has a plan and He wants you to have it. 
He is a God of order and your life in order brings a Good Strong Mental Health that causes you to reach the Maximum of Your Potential. You are asking, "What does that mean and how do I get there?" 
Well here we go follow me on this and it will come together….
God wants you to choose a Balanced Life. III John 1:2, says "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." 
The word "health" in this verse means to be able to function the way He created you. The choice is yours. You can say, “STOP" and you can step back take a look at what has been going on in your life. You and only you can bring change by getting your priorities in the right order. What are right priorities? Having right Priorities is living life in an order that will cause you to be FREE TO BE YOU!

1. Free being you means you become responsible for who you were created to be
     A. DISCOVER.. your Purpose, discover your Core Values.
     B. STOP.. take an inventory of your life right now!
    C. CHECK.. from time to time to see if you are in Balance. 
They can move without you being aware until you are spent out  (it's important to get away by yourself and take a look at how you are living in the here and now).
            2. Plan to change things..
                A. Realize this is a life long journey.
              B. Discover Priorities that work in this order brings a good                    Balance:

1. God -  Get to know Him in a rich growing relationship by spending time with Him.2. Yourself - Get to Know you / Find our what you are about / What does it take to maintain a healthy you in Spirit, Soul and Body?
3. Your Mate - Study and get to know your mate, see what God says about marriage and your position in a Biblical  Marriage.
4. Children - What stage are they in right now? Are they still in the home? / Are they grown and on their own? / Or grown and back home again? 
For instance:
a. Birth - will take more time. You and your mate will be building their foundation in their "belief system".
b. Toddler - will need your strong attention still building their character and the foundation in their "belief system". 
c. Adolescent - will need your attention and parental guidance.
d. Young Adult - will need your presence at a distance to help answer their questions as they search for answers in life.
e. Adult - will still be investing yourself in them but respecting their adulthood, making yourself available for counsel when asked.
5. Work - your occupation, or if retired whatever fills that 40 to 60 hours a week. Take this test below,* the "W-A-R-T" test to see how you rate. Is your work out of Balance? Are you controlling work or is it controlling you?
6. Ministry - God has given each person gifts and the provision to carry them out. How are you using them? Do you know what your gifts are? Don't confuse #1 with # 6. They are each separate. Your relationship with God is separate from your ministry. Your ministry is an overflow of what God is about in and through you.
If you live out daily these priorities in their order you will have enough “time” to go around.  Get your True North. Your LIFE counts and YOU Matter!
(This tool below will help you discover how you use your time and will cause you to get your life in the perspective that works so you can be the best you...see you around and you will be saying I AM Free To Be Me!)

* Work Addiction Risk Test (WART)

Put the number that best describes your work approach beside each statement: 1 – never true; 2 – sometimes true; 3 – often true; 4 – always true.
1. I prefer to do most things rather than ask for help.
2. I get impatient when I have to wait for someone else or when something takes too long.
3. I seem to be in a hurry and racing against the clock.
4. I get irritated when I interrupted while I am in the middle of something.
5. I stay busy and keep many irons in the fire.
6. I find myself doing two or three things at one time, such as eating lunch and writing a memo while talking on the telephone.
7. I overcommit myself by biting off more than I can chew.
8. I feel guilty when I am not working on something.
9. It's important that I see the concrete results of what I do.
10. I am more interested in the final result of my work than in the process.
11. Things never seem to move fast enough or get done fast enough for me.
12. I lose my temper when things don't go my way or work out to suit me.
13. I ask the same question again without realizing that I've already been given the answer.
14. I spend a lot of time mentally planning and thinking about future events while tuning out the here and now.
15. I find myself continuing to work after my co-workers have called it quits.
16. I get angry when people don't meet my standards of perfection.
17. I get upset when I am in situations where I cannot be in control.
18. I tend to put myself under pressure with self-imposed deadlines.
19. It is hard for me to relax when I'm not working.
20. I spend more time working than socializing with friends, or on hobbies or leisure activities.
21. I dive into projects to get a head start before all the phases have been finalized.
22. I get upset with myself for making even the smallest mistake.
23. I put more thought, time and energy into my work than I do into my relationships with loved ones and friends.
24. I forget, ignore or minimize celebrations such as birthdays, reunions, anniversaries or holidays.
25. I make important decisions before I have all the facts and have a chance to think them through.
After responding to all 25 statements, add up your score:
67-100 exhibiting highly workaholic behavior
57-66 considered mildly workaholic
25-56 not engaging in workaholic behavior